I don’t feel guilty, not even a little. I don’t swear much and neither do my kids. However, when I do something stupid, or any number or other exciting sorts of things, I swear. Isn’t that what normal people do? It’s only natural that my kids talk like me. As such I don’t get upset when I hear the occasional “Shit” come out of their mouths. Who cares? Aren’t there more important things to worry about like reading and math? Besides, some of the finest literature in the world is full of swears. It’s part of our language and it peppers things up a bit. When I hear too much swearing I know it. It typically comes from under-educated people who lack the vocabulary to use more diverse words. There’s another kind of cursing that doesn’t substitute vulgarities for more useful words, it’s the kind that adds flavor and depth to sentences. Sometimes it even adds humor. Should we be prudes about words? I don’t think so, not as long as we can all understand each other and not sound like idiots.
Some people need to get off their high horse. The church that I used to go to was an Independent Baptist Church in Oklahoma. I can’t say it was a bad experience because I learned a lot and met some very decent and good people. There were times though that I had to watch what I said because I knew I would offend someone with my language. It felt repressive, and it was. I had stuff on my mind that I couldn’t say because it required language that was unacceptable to many people. It really boils down to a free speech issue. Unfortunately there are people who are very easily offended, and these people mass together in society. They become giant obstacles that we must steer around or risk being scorned. Like I said, I met some good people, but I could not be myself around them and that’s a shame. I had to go elsewhere. I want my kids to feel free to express themselves even if that means they have to offend some folks along the way.
There are others – the school marm types, who say using any profanity at all amounts to poor education. Where’s the evidence? These are the same people who also say we must use perfect grammar or we’re stupid. I guess they haven’t heard that English is a constantly evolving language. The way we speak it now will not be how it’s spoken 100 years from now – Humbug! Now, as with swearing, grammar can get so bad that it is unintelligible and really does make the user seem retarded. There is a point where swearing and bad grammar turn from colloquial charm to just plain dumb. Where’s that point? We know it when we see it.
My kids, at times, sound a lot like me. If that means they swear sometimes then I don’t have a problem with that. But, like with most things, it can be overdone. In the case that profanity becomes rude then a scolding would be in order. Swearing does not equal rudeness in the same way that being an inconsiderate ass can be accomplished without profanity. That’s my opinion about that.